An Open Letter To The Woman Who Tears Other Mothers Down

I know so many of you Negative Nancys. (No offence to the regular Nancys out there.)

I’m talking about the ones who rain on the new mom’s parade by bragging how they did everything she’s doing, x100.
I’m talking about the Nancys who disregard all of the other mother’s fears, thoughts, and concerns to make themselves heard.
I’m talking about the one who is constantly making “my child would never do that…” comments.

You know exactly the type I’m describing.

When a mom says she’s tired, don’t tell her how you got less sleep.
Don’t tell her you had more kids than her, and she’s fine.
Don’t tell her that you did more than her when your kids were little, and she’ll survive.
Don’t tell her that she will be okay, because she chose this life.

When a mom says she’s overwhelmed, don’t tell her how you do more than her.
Don’t tell her you had more tasks to do than her today, and she’s fine.
Don’t tell her that you did more than her when your kids were little, and she’ll survive.
Don’t tell her that she will be okay, because she chose this life.

When a mom is coming at you with a vulnerable confession, don’t try to “one up” her. She is on the brink of tears, self- destructive thoughts, and a near cry- shaky voice behind her words.

This is the perfect opportunity to provide love, support, and a helping hand. Offer guidance, a listening ear, and kindness instead of unsolicited advice and irrelevant stories.

Let’s be the change, fellow mamas.

Afterall, regardless if you are drowning in 5 feet of water or 10, you are still drowning.

This is an open letter to every woman who has torn down a mother in her most vulnerable state.

To be fair, we are all dealing with our own insecurities, struggles, unfortunate circumstances, and can be quite ignorant about the way we are speaking to others. I understand some of us have bad days, or are uneducated, and say something completely cringe worthy. We have almost all been there.

I want this to not be an open letter tearing a negative woman down, however. That would be unproductive, and quite honestly, I would be contradicting myself.

So, an open letter to the woman who tears other mothers down:

I want to welcome you with open arms. You can sit at my table.

Why, you may ask?

The most insecure, uneducated, and egotistic individuals I have met generally are the most mean and lonely people. I’m sorry for such a hurtful and blunt statement, but we needed to clear the air.

I want to offer you a place of love, guidance, and experience.
I want to show you how beautiful all walks of motherhood are.
I want to show you that no children are the same.
I want to show you how to live in community with other women, and love on them.

I am sorry you felt a deep amount of pain, that led you to hurt others. Truly, I am sorry you felt that way.

But let’s be uplifting, encouraging, supportive, positive, and courageous in a world that lacks those qualities.

I want to adopt you as a friend, and help break your loneliness and hostility.
I want to show you that we don’t have to rain on mom’s parades, and belittle them to feel empowered and strong.

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